“You love me. Real or not real?”
I tell him, “Real.”
Suzanne Collins, Mockingjay
The key concept that must be grasped for a real relationship with God to be possible is to understand that your spiritual IQ is separate from your intellectual IQ.
No amount of life experience or number of college diplomas can get you any closer to God. If anything, all that worldly knowledge gets you farther away from God, because the more stuff you’ve crammed into your own head, the more independent you feel. You have moved WAY beyond your childhood belief that Mommy and Daddy are invincible. You are making your own way, building your own life, and you don’t need anybody, not even God, to tell you what to do or how to live.
Except that you do.
Not all the time, but there are days and seasons where you reach the end of yourself and run out of answers, because your knowledge is incomplete. When your spouse rejects you for another and you didn’t see it coming. When you or a loved one get that diagnosis that only happens to “other people.” When you lose your job. When you get that phone call that no parent wants to get. When the storms come leaving all your worldly possessions a pile of rubble.
The question is, what do you do then?
One of two things will happen. Either you will become even more hardened and spiral downward from even the low place in which you have found yourself, or you will recognize that you are at rock bottom and look up.
Doubt happens. Doubt is normal.
Doubt enters your mind the first time you encounter a fact that doesn’t coincide with your belief. Doubt happens the first time you see your father cry. It happens when you hear your parents fight. It happens the first time you encounter someone who isn’t really all that concerned about your self-esteem. It happens the first time you really watch the news.
Basically, there comes a day when the world doesn’t make as much sense as it did the day before. And you start to wonder, “What else isn’t real?”
Now at this point, you have two choices. You can make a list of what isn’t real or you can make a list of what is.
Most of us do a combination of the two, but I think our natural inclination is to lean toward the negative. The problem is that going that way could be dangerous, because then our emotions kick in and overwhelm our logic. Before long depression and apathy crash the party, and you just start not believing in anything. This is frequently where God gets thrown out with the dishwater.
On the other hand, what would happen if you focused on what is real? The positive things? The things that don’t move?
This is the essence of being a Truthseeker, and the entire impetus behind my writing in the first place.
(What happens when you focus on the things that don’t move? Come back for Part 6–Abba (Father))